We interviewed the mother of a 3-year-old and 15-month-old to ask about some of her best tips for new moms.
Below, you’ll find some of her advice to some of the most frequently-asked questions by new moms!
Mom: “I'm always wary of dishing out advice. But there are still plenty of things I wish someone had told me when my bundle of joy first arrived! Of course, we all parent in our own way, and every child is different. “
Baby Merlin: “How do you get through the changes in sleep schedules with a new baby?”
Mom: “You are probably tired of hearing it, but your baby will grow in the blink of an eye. Every single phase, no matter how difficult, will pass. How many teenagers do you know that don't sleep, for example?”
“My daughter cluster-fed for six hours a night (every night!) when she was just a few weeks old. It was exhausting for me as a new mom. But those arduous nights soon ended as she moved on to the next stage of her development. Remember, as soon as you get used to parenting a 1-month-old, you'll have a 2-month-old instead. And then the same will happen the month after! It sounds obvious, but reminding yourself that it will pass is so good for your mental health.”
Baby Merlin: “What are your tips for mothers struggling with their mental health after the birth of a new baby?”
Mom: “Getting out of the house is fantastic for a new mom’s mental health. Your baby will find the fresh air and new scenery stimulating. Plus, the cries of a colicky or upset baby are easier to cope with and calm when you are outdoors in an open space. Take your baby outside for a walk every day. Take a trip to the grocery store, head to the park, or visit a friend. It doesn't have to be a big mission. Fifteen minutes away from the same four walls of your home will make a big difference.”
Baby Merlin: “What tips do you have for a new mom trying to help their baby to sleep?”
Mom: “Some parents will tell you that their little darling slept for 12 hours a night, right off the bat. But if you don't have one of those rare miracles, there are a few things that can help:
- Try a sidecar crib instead of a traditional bassinet. It keeps your baby close at hand during the night in a safe sleeping arrangement. It reassures them and makes nighttime feeds a little easier.
- Keep your bundle of joy bundled up at night. I loved Baby Merlin's Magic Sleepsuit™. It helps to keep your baby snug. This can jolt them awake again and undo your hard work in rocking them to sleep!
- Always try to move your sleeping baby sideways rather than down when putting them down to sleep. A downward motion triggers the Moro reflex, and they startle awake. Think about sliding a pizza into the oven when slipping them into their crib!”
Baby Merlin: “Any last words of advice for the new moms out there?”
Mom: “Be patient, be kind (to yourself and your partner), and give yourself a few moments to breathe if it all gets too much. You got this, Mama!”