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Military Parents: Tips for Quality Bonding with Baby when You've Been Away

May 12, 2021

According to the ASAA, about 1.2 million children have parents on active duty worldwide. Military parents make a sacrifice for our country that is uniquely brave and difficult. Being away from your child is never easy, especially in the early months when baby is just beginning to develop and deepen connections with their caregivers. 


Luckily, there are still several ways military parents can create special bonds with their kiddos, both when they are deployed and when they’re spending time at home. At Baby Merlin Company, we want to do our part to encourage this meaningful bonding between military parents and their babies, whether it’s your first child or your fifth!

Here are some valuable ways military parents can create profound bonds with their babies: 

How Can I Bond with My Baby after Being Deployed?

Parenting is hard in general, but the distance that an active soldier has can make it harder. That said, there are still lots of ways military parents can stay connected to their children, even after being deployed. 

Schedule Regular Video Calls

Create a regular schedule for video calls between baby’s naps. If possible, try scheduling regular calls with your baby’s primary caregiver between baby's nap times so you can stay connected over video. Seeing your face regularly will certainly make your baby smile and help them bond with you.

Leave a Voice Recording 

Leave a recording of your voice home with your baby. One of the primary ways babies recognize their parents is by their voices. In fact, they can actually recognize your voice in utero! To bond with your baby, you can leave a recorded video message that your child can watch while you’re away, or even leave a recordable teddy bear with a special voice-recorded message inside.

Create a Countdown Calendar

For older children, set up a countdown calendar for the day you return. For kids that are a little older and anxiously awaiting your homecoming, a countdown calendar or app can help them channel their anticipation and prep for the big day. While you may not know the exact date of your homecoming, even a countdown to the general month or week you expect to come home can be very reassuring and help strengthen your bond with your kids.

How Can I Continue to Bond with My Baby Once I’m Home?

Bonding with baby while you’re away is a great way to make your time with them that much more special once you’re home. Here are some tips for continuing to bond with your kids after arriving home from deployment:

Engage in Baby’s Daily Routines

Feeding and bathing are some of the most intimate ways to create bonding moments that last a lifetime. Babies learn quickly that they can rely on you when you are regularly helping with their daily activities. If your baby is being breastfed, even just sitting near them or holding their hand while they eat can help you bond.

Help Put Baby to Bed

Whether your baby has a complex or simple bedtime routine, participating can help you deepen your connection with them. Implementing a baby sleep sack or baby sleep suit from Baby Merlin can be a great way to bond and help your baby recognize that you are there to help them sleep well. The suit is Baby Merlin’s Magic Dream Sack and Magic Sleepsuit are designed to ensure your baby feels protected all night long, almost as if you were right there with them.

Take Part in Tummy Time

Tummy time, when a baby is placed on their stomach to strengthen their trunk and neck, can be a sweet time of bonding with your baby while they are awake. It is a great time to play, listen, and talk to them.

Support Your Baby’s Primary Caretaker

Supporting baby’s primary caretaker can help you develop a strong bond with your baby. Babies recognize tension, so the more supported your baby’s primary caretaker feels, the more supported your baby will feel. It takes a village to raise a child, and helping a child create a positive attachment with family and friends ensures positive mental and emotional growth.

Join our “Boots and Babies” Virtual Celebration of Military Families 


We at Baby Merlin’s Magic Sleepsuit Baby Merlin Company greatly appreciate your efforts and sacrifice. We believe in helping each other bond with our children and providing the best environment for babies to feel loved and cared for. 


If you are an active-duty military family expecting a new baby between April 20th, 2021 and October 20th, 2021, you are invited to attend our “Boots and Babies” virtual celebration on Wednesday, May 19th, from 9 pm to 10 pm EST. 


We have partnered with Postpartum Support International, Kiinde, Homefront Pumps, and other top brands to celebrate your newborn's arrival! There will be wonderful speakers with insightful information and gifts, including the chance to win a $200-value Baby Bundle Box stuffed with goodies. Don't hesitate to sign up here!


Ultimately, remember that relationships are built a day at a time. Every parent is discovering how best to love and care for their children every day, and while it may look a little different for military families, your bonds with your children will become unbreakable over time!


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